That was kind of my point. Original post was asking for what we thought an appropriate punishment would be.
I wanted to share some experiences that had led to some discussion.
For the record, the wine story came from a family that were immigrants from Corsica, I believe. Nosy neighbor was watching this and, as her kid had gotten punished for being falling down drunk in public the season before, wanted to make sure everyone else was getting the “same punishment”.
Technically, she was right. The policy, as written, did not differentiate between any situation. The father was called in. He was a great guy and very remorseful, but in his broken English was trying to say how he didn’t understand any logic in it.
Policy was followed and punishment was carried out. I sure didn’t feel good about it, though.
Although unhealthy choices must always be discouraged, that one felt a little invasive and out of bounds.